Your Social Portfolio
July 18, 2025
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At 96 years old, Betty Parker admits she doesn’t have as much energy as she used to, and while that does impact what she can do, she says her 90s have been purpose-filled – something we should all strive for, whatever our age.
We’ve talked a lot in WealthNotes about how people are generally living longer lives and there are things we can do to make sure we are in the best shape possible – things like healthy eating, strength training, and exercising our brain. Betty’s daughter, gerontologist Dr. Kerry Burnight, lists four factors for getting the most joy out of a longer life: growing, connecting, adapting, and giving.
Your Social Portfolio
About once a month, Parker meets with a group she calls “the youngs” to play canasta, which she taught them. She met this group of 60-something women through her daughter-in-law. Although they are much younger than her, Parker said she values having a diverse group of friends, especially as she has outlived her husband and other close connections.
“Like how we diversify our financial portfolio, socially we want to have friends of different ages, friends from your neighborhood, as well as friends from the past,” she said.
If you’ve lost touch, people from your past can frequently be found using social media, and people are usually happy to hear from an old friend. You can cultivate relationships with neighbors, join local groups such as book clubs or quilting clubs, or join a local gym. Diversification is key.
Dr. Burnight emphasizes that loneliness is dangerous to longevity, so don’t be afraid to invest in relationships. Don’t wait for others to reach out – be the friend who calls or texts on a birthday or makes the plan to meet for coffee.
While growing older definitely brings change and often brings challenges, those who age well are those who can adapt – accepting or even embracing change. Research suggests how you think about aging profoundly impacts how you actually age.
You may not be able to physically do some of things you used to do – like golf, or tennis – but there are still so many things you can do. Being adaptable and having a wide network of friends and family can open up new opportunities.
You can also live a more vibrant life if you turn your attention to all you still have to give. Evidence suggests people who give report higher levels of joy, purpose, and longevity. Giving can be financial or something as small as calling a sick friend or planting some flowers for your neighbors to enjoy.
So much of our quality of life is based on our attitude and our ability to find purpose and joy. In the words of Dr. Burnight, ““Purpose is small and daily and a decision,” she said. “It’s saying, ‘Okay, today, how am I going to use the fact that I’m alive and that I have things to give?’”
What do you have to give?
Written by Michelle O’Brien, Manager of Marketing & Communications