The Joseph Group

Offer Forgiveness

December 8, 2023

To Inspire:

Many college football fans are extremely disappointed that undefeated ACC Champion Florida State was left out of the College Football Playoffs, replaced by one loss Alabama. Florida State Coach Mike Norvell said he was “disgusted and infuriated” while ACC Commissioner Jim Phillips said the decision was “unfathomable.”

Like Mike and Jim, I happen to agree that Florida State was wronged big time. And I wonder how Coach Norvell will handle this incident with his players. But the controversy also has me reflecting on how all of us react when someone has wronged us. It’s natural to feel bitter or develop a grudge toward that person but remember that the feelings of anger and resentment that build up in our own heart is toxic to US, not the person who hurt us. We in essence are continuing to wound ourselves, allowing that person and their act to imprison us.

What is the antidote to living in that negative state? Forgiveness. Forgiveness doesn’t excuse what someone did to you. Instead, forgiveness is a decision on your part to let go of your anger and to want the best for that person – to release them in your heart and mind from a desire to punish or seek revenge. Forgiveness recognizes that we too have hurt others and that none of us are perfect. In forgiving we take on the image of God – who always treats us with forgiveness, mercy and love.

The holidays are a time when family and friends gather, including people who have hurt us and who we’ve not yet forgiven. Be the one to offer forgiveness and desire their best and yours as well. In doing so, you’ll make a path for reconciliation, peace and even joy. And that kind of restoration is a huge part of living a great life!

Greatness, it’s in all of us! Have a great weekend.





Written by Matt Palmer, Partner & Co-Founder